It's that time of the year
again. In the month of December, people spend too much money and eat far
too much unhealthy food. People stress out, fight crowds and traffic to
find the "perfect" gifts that don't really benefit their recipients.
This is the month where people start going into crazy amounts of credit
card debt and gain extra pounds of weight along the way.
By the time New Years comes around, these
poor and fat individuals then make resolutions to get out of debt,
finally lose that weight and get into shape.
Okay, I'm making broad generalizations.
But hey, I've been guilty of all of the above and I'm sure many of you
have as well.
I've heard lots of friends and family
complaining about how "hard it is" this month and how "money is so
tight right now." Bear in mind that these are people making anywhere
between $50,000 a year to over $100,000 a year.
In our society of consumerism, it has
been ingrained into our minds from childhood that giving gifts is the best way
to show how much you love someone. Millions of dollars worth of
advertising is done yearly to convince us which gifts are the right ones for
your mother, father, spouse, and children. People show off their gifts on
facebook with pride. People spend way out of their budget to get the
right gift for the one that they love.
What happens when you get a gift that
disappoints you? How often have you heard people complaining about the
Christmas gifts that they've received? Weeks after Christmas, millions of
consumers, with their gift and gift receipts in hand, go back to the stores
where their gifts were purchase to exchange them for what they really want.
"I didn't get the exact purse /
wallet / jewelry / camera / iPad / headphones that I wanted."
The gift giving situations can get worse
when you're married. Once you are in a committed relationship with your
significant other, your finances are connected. When a man gets a gift
for his wife, he's basically spending HER money on the gift. And when a
woman gets a gift for her husband, she's basically spending HIS money on the
gift. How does this benefit their financial futures?
I know of couples who go deeper and deeper into credit card
debt, just for the sake of impressing each other with fancy gifts. Why
should your happiness depend on gifts from others? And if you have to ask
your spouse for a specific gift, what meaning is there really? Make sure you
have the money talk with
your significant other or spouse as soon as possible.
Instead of working separately to "out-gift"
each other, what about working together towards the best gift of all: reaching
financial freedom. If you're in any debt whatsoever, giving gifts to your
spouse is unacceptable. Save that money and use it towards getting out of
debt. You will never become wealthy if you're always spending all of your income or going into debt.
Now with all this being said, it can be
difficult if not seemingly impossible to get out of our gift giving traditions.
We still give our family gifts for important days like birthdays and
Christmas. I don't think my mom would take kindly to not receiving a
gift. Hopefully when we have children one day, we will be able to teach
them never to worry about getting gifts for mommy and daddy.
This year, the two of us decided that
we already have everything that we could possibly want. We will not be going through the stress of worrying about
what gift to give each other.